Natural Hair Problems?

Have you ever gone to the salon and seen a little girl causing drama?? You see, I was those six or seven year olds that have to be pinned down by either their moms or hair stylists in order to get their hair done. I would, arch my back, scream or even worse, scratch those that participated in pinning me down. My screams would literally occupy Mama Shiko’s entire salon.  This is one of the main reasons why I finally relaxed my hair during my early teenage years. Another reason why I relaxed my hair was because several hair stylists dreaded making my hair. In fact, a few declined this task not only because of my now infamous tantrums but also because none of them wanted to put up with” steel wool masquerading as hair” (for lack of a better word).  I actually got used to comments like “for someone with such a small head, you have too much hair” “Oh my God, I cannot deal with her texture” “someone ask her mom to get her beautiful beginnings.” (hair relaxer)

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I grew up believing relaxers were the solution to my nightmares but I found reasons to return natural.  I realized that embracing my hair as it is worked for me. I cannot express how liberating it was to finally cut my relaxed hair. I felt a sense of freedom and acceptance. Other than boosting my confidence, natural hair is healthier for me. I no longer use harsh products on my hair. I almost always use kitchen products like Virgin olive oil, honey, coconut oil among others on my hair. Do I need to mention the versatility that comes with natural hair? I am pretty sure some of you have seen one person look like four different people in four natural hair styles. The most important reason why I went natural is because I learnt I could make my hair from the comfort of my home.  This was an interesting revelation to me. I can count the number of times I have visited the salon since I went natural. Basically, I have learnt my hair and made it my best friend.

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You would think that cutting my hair would make things easy. Well meaning friends were concerned with comments like, “I do not think that “shaggy” hair is appropriate if you want to be taken seriously”, “are you really going out like that?”  Or “I miss how you look in braids”. Others were downright horrified with the “YOU CUT YOUR HAIR” expressions written all over their faces. Some took turns teasing me. I recall when I met my dad for the first time after I shaved and he gave me the I know you are not coming to my office looking like that look. He ditched me outside his workplace. Later he told my mom he left me because he did not want his colleagues to see me looking like a “crazy woman”. My mom and I had a good laugh about this. Let’s just say I had not mastered the art of making Bantu knots. Later on, I coloured my hair to boost my confidence. This is a story for another post.

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At this point, I should mention that whoever wants to go natural should exercise patience and self-control. Yes! You need the PATIENCE. I have learnt patience from just maintaining natural hair (hello detangling process!) Beware of becoming a product junkie. What works for one naturalista might not work for you. It is however worth it. This is coming from someone who almost gave up on the journey. One thing that I cannot fail to mention is that if you were born with it, it is meant for you. It is why I returned natural and stayed.rioba-18-of-46small

Is it not amazing that we are in the natural hair revolution era? Natural hair stylists exist today and thank God for DIY (do it yourself) methods for natural hair. This blog will be about embracing Kinky/Nappy Hair and how to rock our natural tresses at every stage. In addition, the blog will cover protective hairstyles that favour natural sisters, my personal style and my love for culture and adventure.

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Take this journey with me, share your experiences and your feedback will be most welcome.

Best,

Rioba.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments (97)

  1. Joan nyabaro October 30, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Baby boo I love the blog?

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:13 am

      Thank you Miss Vlogger☺

  2. Pamela Chemelil October 30, 2016 at 9:12 pm

    Good job miss….Too fine ?
    …. Love…. Love…. Love….

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:13 am

      Thank you Tumo!

  3. Chillian Nyabaro October 30, 2016 at 9:20 pm

    Let me start by saying that I love this blog and you finally kick started it. We relate so much since you are my fellow natural hair sister. Lets take the journey together and learn from each other..share discoveries and ideas. #naturalsistersalltheway.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:14 am

      Thank you Chillian. Your ideas are most welcome 🙂

  4. Kapombe James October 30, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    You don’t need a relaxer your hair ain’t stressed out…natural hair??

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:15 am

      Haha..you know it James. You know it.

  5. Yvy Jakaila October 30, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    How awesome is this??

    Your hair is gorgeous and the make up is flawless!!!

    I have a small tip for you.
    Be consistent. 🙂
    Stay winning!!!!!

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:15 am

      Much appreciated Jakes. Absolutely love the tip.

  6. Vivian October 30, 2016 at 9:31 pm

    Amazing! The journey is real…

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:16 am

      I know right? We are here to stay though☺☺

  7. Judith October 30, 2016 at 9:37 pm

    Love the hair, and the photos, and the outfits ?? Oh, and the blog.
    Proud of you mami!
    ???

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:17 am

      Ah thank you so much Judith!!

  8. pamela nyamoita October 30, 2016 at 9:45 pm

    Message
    hey boo nice piece I promise to keep Kimberley’s hair all natural.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:17 am

      Aunty Rih is here for that. Thank you Sandy ☺

  9. Vivi C. October 30, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    Yaay I’m so happy you’re finally blogging about your journey. I love this!
    Oh those naysayers, don’t we all know them.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:18 am

      Much appreciated Vivi! Thank you

  10. Mubarak October 30, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    Good stuff…..looking gorgeous as well. Natural is always beautiful

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:19 am

      Far too kind Mumu. Shukran!

  11. Kam Douglas Taylor October 30, 2016 at 9:52 pm

    Nice photos, kudos. But us men especially the conservative ones like me don’t talk of hair. I visit a barber shop weekly though…
    Keep up.
    I will be checking this site daily though…

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:20 am

      Thank you Douglas!

  12. Sue October 30, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    Your hair is amazing. Officially jealous.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:21 am

      Thank you Sue. Your hair is stunning!

  13. TRIZAH TICHI October 30, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    Never been this motivated to going back to being natural. Go you! Couldn’t be more proud love.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 9:50 pm

      You should return natural. You did rock that look btw. And Thank you!

  14. Min Jowi October 30, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    Finally honey!!!!
    So freaking proud!!!! ????
    Your blog is dope!!! Sana sana the icon…mh mh mh!!!
    ???

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:22 am

      Sorry for the delay Nicoley. Better late than never right? Thank you

  15. Muruka Matuku October 30, 2016 at 10:18 pm

    Stellar work! Well written and the changes.. from red head to such splendid hair now… too good! Keep consistent, keep at it!

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:23 am

      Thanks a lot Marcel.!Motivation on 100! Thank you

  16. Shiko October 30, 2016 at 10:21 pm

    loved your first post. Gave me a good laugh,i loove the volume of your hair btw!!now share them tips often, i need them. i just undid my hair which scares me .

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:24 am

      Thank you Shiko! Don’t be. We are in this together

  17. Cee_k October 30, 2016 at 10:54 pm

    🙂 🙂 🙂

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      ☺☺☺

  18. njoki October 30, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    ..finally!
    You’ve got such beautiful hair.
    Hella proud of you.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:25 am

      Yours too njoki. Thank you!

  19. Moses kiburi October 30, 2016 at 11:04 pm

    Elaborate and so eloquent in wording. Nice. The sky is the limit.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:25 am

      Thanks Moses. Means a lot!

  20. Ann moke October 30, 2016 at 11:05 pm

    simply amazing….

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:31 am

      Thank you Ann!

  21. Mishael October 30, 2016 at 11:05 pm

    Great job… Looking forward forward to a hairy future????

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:31 am

      Haha. Hairy future indeed! Thank you Mishael

  22. priscilla kui October 30, 2016 at 11:22 pm

    proud of you girl…..keep it up…
    your very pretty

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:30 am

      Thanks Kui!! I will.

  23. The Black Kennedy October 30, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    CHEERS Pretty Gal.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:29 am

      Thanks JFK!!

  24. Brenda Liona October 31, 2016 at 5:10 am

    Beautiful read,I can relate because when I decided to dread my hair,I got some really bad reactions and comments .But now,I couldn’t be more happier with myself.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:29 am

      And your locks are absolutely amazing!! Thanks

  25. Lonze October 31, 2016 at 5:31 am

    Good work Ree….I love

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 6:28 am

      Lonze!! Thank you

  26. Yveey October 31, 2016 at 6:42 am

    Aaaawwhhh proud of you gal….. this is big Ri…. this is big!!!!!

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 8:14 am

      Thank you Yveey!! Means a lot

  27. Acy October 31, 2016 at 7:42 am

    Amazing inspiration to us with relaxed hair. Proud of you boo….n you look absolutely gorgeous <3

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 8:15 am

      Thanks Acy! Karibu sana team natural.

  28. Mark October 31, 2016 at 7:44 am

    *Enter the internet troll*
    Muhahaha ?
    Sasa Rioba. Nice blog. Totally relatable. You know, for people with actual hair.
    ION, have you ever apologized for your tantrums? No, you haven’t. You only think about yourself!
    *Exits the internet troll*

    Keep writing ?
    https://thispostisabout.wordpress.com

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 8:13 am

      HAHAHAHA. Surely actual hair? Mark you never disappoint. Hahaha. I will look for mama shiko and apologize.
      Looking forward to your trolls.
      Shukran!

  29. Mokeira October 31, 2016 at 7:52 am

    #teamnatural patience our middle name and the tantrums we relate! feature locks too?
    awesome read??

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 8:14 am

      Locks will be featured. Thank you Mokeira!

  30. ERIC ITHALII October 31, 2016 at 8:27 am

    lets start with the logo…dope logo there- relates to the hair aspect..
    you still throw tantrums b/w:-)

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      Hahahaha. Wah. Thank you though!

  31. Alfie October 31, 2016 at 8:42 am

    This is really good…????

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      Lit aye? Thank you Alfie!

  32. ken October 31, 2016 at 8:49 am

    niece piece cant wait for the next one

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      Wow! Thank you!

  33. Mogiti October 31, 2016 at 9:43 am

    Go you Rioba!!
    I really like that your content doesn’t seem forced or salesy…i can almost feel your pain in Mama Shiko’s hands.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:17 pm

      I’m telling you blow drys still freak me out. Scarred for life girl. Thank you. So much

  34. Eljay Graffiti October 31, 2016 at 9:53 am

    Good start.You are a quite a good writer and I a forsee a greater future for you as a blogger….I commend you on the photographer he/she did great,they can make great paintings(artist in me speaking 🙂 ),

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:18 pm

      I am about to tag him on this post. And yes. He is great at it. Thank you!

  35. Collins Mango October 31, 2016 at 11:10 am

    It is finally here! Slaying as usual… I’m saving all your blogs for my future daughter! Your hair looks Heavenly!

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:22 pm

      You are so sweet. Thank you☺

  36. Zipporah Gichana October 31, 2016 at 12:05 pm

    Natural is beautiful, way to go girl, am right behind you

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:23 pm

      Ahhh. Thats the way Zipporah. Thanks a lot

  37. Scholz October 31, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    Riih,
    This is very Nice! Keep them coming…..I hope I wasn’t in the list of people who looked at you like you was crazy when u cut your hair! 😛
    I have always loved your hair!
    P.S: I did notice you chucked your ring….:-P Next time have it on.

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:24 pm

      No you were not. You always said how much you loved my fro. Appreciate it btw.
      About the ring..i sure will do soon. Thank you Scholz!!

  38. Naivanoi Wanjiru October 31, 2016 at 12:47 pm

    NAMASLAY…so proud of you girl…keep up the spirit

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:24 pm

      Thank you Shiru. You know I will

  39. Robin October 31, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Lovely read Riri

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 2:25 pm

      Thank you Robin!

  40. Oscar Osirm October 31, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    i love. ..

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 9:46 pm

      Glad you do. Thank you Oscar!

  41. vivian October 31, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    hi gal! How often will u be posting? so I can put a reminder….love u r hair

    • rioba October 31, 2016 at 9:48 pm

      Thanks Vivian. Everytime I post I will be sharing the link on my social media pages. You will not miss a post.

  42. liz makori November 1, 2016 at 3:17 am

    Looove your hair…Awesome blog gal.

    • rioba November 1, 2016 at 6:12 am

      Thanks a lot Liz!

  43. Miriam November 1, 2016 at 8:47 am

    Nice start. Amazing stuff. Go gal

    • rioba November 1, 2016 at 11:39 am

      Thank you Miriam!

  44. Collins Ouko November 1, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Nice piece Winnie…Keep doing what you do best

  45. Lesley November 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    am amazed.. its really awesome. the pics are lovely too. you are a real beauty Rioba.

  46. Lewis November 2, 2016 at 8:56 am

    Nice read. Well articulated for a first piece. Looking forward to more post that are as interesting.

    • rioba November 5, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Thank you Lewis

  47. Sam November 3, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Did I just read about hair and actually like it! Amazing piece ?

    • rioba November 5, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Thank you Sam!!

  48. Shyller November 4, 2016 at 6:25 am

    Splendidly done. I love good reads and subscribing to them is what i do best.
    Keep going. Its Awesome.

    • rioba November 5, 2016 at 5:33 pm

      Yaay! Thank you Shyller!

  49. Emilly November 5, 2016 at 1:15 pm

    Where shall I begin,yaaaaas you finally blogged,i’m so so happy for you Rioba.Did you just talk about my childhood experiences,i relate to every single one of them and will to future posts having been a natural all my life. Can’t wait for more !!
    http://www.styleonadime.co.ke

    • rioba November 5, 2016 at 5:33 pm

      Haha. Emily! Thank you so much. You are such an inspiration 🙂

  50. Dennis November 18, 2016 at 7:12 am

    Nice one

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