A few months back, I decided to backpack solo. Now, this would not be my first solo trip as an African woman traveling solo, but it would be the first time I travel through 5 African countries with a just a camera, a laptop and a backpack big enough to fit a baby inside.

Most people, family, friends, and people I met along the way out of concern and sheer curiosity made the following statements that I have since decided to debunk in this post:

1. “You think this is a lifetime experience? One day someone will get you pregnant, and you will settle down.”

I think this has to be the funniest comment for me hands down.

 Myth: Parents do not have time to travel

Reality: I may not be a mother, but I sure do know lots of parents that travel with their children. I may not know how they do it, but it’s a thing I look forward to in future.

2.“Do you travel alone? Who takes your pictures then?”

Myth: You must travel with someone

Reality: That one person might back out last minute then what? Cancel all your plans? That can never be me. If you want cool pictures to ask people with cameras, most likely they are travelers too and will want you to take photos of them as well. Self timers that connect with your phone  are a gift from heaven

3.“I cannot believe it. Your partner lets you travel alone?”

A young Singaporean man I met when we had gone swimming at the devil's pool made this comment. Now, everyone was in a group or coupled up. He was there with his girlfriend too, and I guess he felt the need to ask why I was solo.  He went on to add, “I can never allow my younger sisters or my girlfriend to travel alone.’’ The fact that he said allow though. Ha-ha!

Myth: Women are not supposed to travel on their own, especially those in serious commitments.

Reality: Solo travel is for everyone and anyone interested in it.  What if your partner does not like to travel? We are in the year two thousand and nineteen, the year of our Lord so I do not see what’s this about women not being “allowed” to travel on their own? What’s this? The 12th Century?

Kilifi, Kenya

4.“You do realise this is a white people’s thing?

A Malawian I had just met in Lilongwe said he had never met an African woman backpacking. He went on to add, “Look around you Rioba, everyone in this hostel is white, in case you had missed it.”

It’s true that most of the backpacker’s hostels I stayed in had mostly white people. Sometimes I would be the only black person. It would be so hard to miss me, what with my Melanin radiating throughout. Ha-ha. Some became my friends; some asked me if I spoke English and others just stared at me.

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Myth:  backpacking is a white people’s thing

Reality: Traveling is for anyone and everyone. My number one rule of travel is to go solo I can't find someone to travel with me. Make the world your runway and prosper!! No seriously though. PROSPER!

african solo traveller

5.“ Why are you traveling alone? Are you going through the quarter-life crisis?”

Myth: People that travel alone are going through something or are in search of something.

Reality: Not everyone traveling is starring in “Eat, Pray, Love”. Some travelers want to experience the feeling of living in foreign cities; others want to know what it’s like to be part of a different culture; others go for the food and beaches. Some want to hike up the Mountains like Kilimanjaro or the Himalayas.  Simple! Age, heartbreaks and, soul searching for do not usually have anything to do with travel.

6.“How much money do you make to afford to travel?”

This comment came from a close friend of mine accompanied with “Were you part of the squad that hacked KCB bank recently?”

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Myth: You need to be paid lots of money to afford to travel. If not, you need wealthy parents or affluent brands to sponsor your trips.

Reality: While the above is the case for some travelers, none of the above applies to most travelers.

First of all, most of us are budget travelers. The idea is to always look for cheap flights, cheap accommodation, affordable travel destinations, ideally, cheap everything to afford to survive on the road.

I know several travelers give up a lot of things to save up for their travels. They rearrange their lives and make travel a lifestyle.

Zanzibar, Tanzania

7.“Wow! You are brave. Are you not scared? Will you be safe?”

Safety is a genuine concern and to be fair; I was a nervous wreck when I hit the road. I even contemplated carrying a pepper spray or a gadget for protection such as a taser. The fact that last year I was in Zimbabwe during the coup did not help my case.

Myth: Travel, especially for women is not safe.

Reality: Most places in the world are not safe. For real, the CBD of Nairobi is like Gotham city.

The bottom line is you cannot stay locked up in the house because there are big bad wolves out there to speak.

If you decide to travel alone, you are not supposed to let everyone know you are on your own. The smart thing is always to trust your instincts, meet people in public places and avoid roaming in the dark. You realize these are the same principles we apply in our day to day lives. Nothing changes, the world has people with bad intentions, but also there are also great hearts and beautiful minds too.

Read more: How To Be Safe When Travelling Solo

8.“How many leave days do you have? Must be a lot?”

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Myth: You require lots of leave days to travel

Reality: A lot of free time would be awesome, but not everyone can afford that. The trick is to plan your leave days strategically at the beginning of the year. By strategic I mean, booking leave around less busy days at work or around public holidays.

Read more: 7 Ways to Maximize Travel with a Full-Time Job

9.“Are you crazy? You won’t be bored and lonely?”

I will go the Sheldon way and say, “No, I am not crazy, my mom had me tested.”

Myth: You need to travel with a group of people to have fun

Reality: A lot of factors come into play when planning a trip with a group of people and most times people do not make it. It comes down to you either travelling alone or not travelling at all.

Traveling solo is not everyone’s cup of tea, but best believe I have had some of my best experiences of my life through solo travel. Linda Matama, one of my favorite traveler from Kenya likes to say ‘A lot of things scare me, but I do them anyway.

Imagine not seeing this beautiful world because you are scared?

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    29 thoughts on “9 Hilarious Questions you get as an African Woman Travelling Solo

    1. MinJowi

      January 24, 2018

      When i starts travelling with Jowi i will tell you about it ???

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        I cant wait

    2. Arnau

      January 24, 2018

      Nice post, in the last one I also would say, if you travel alone, the chances of make new friends and know people are much higher.

      PS. Im texting from Uganda, Im mysolo backpacking trip here 😉

      • January 24, 2018

        Have fun Arnau! Martha and I plan to raft in Jinja o er Easter.

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        You have a valid point. How long are you staying in Uganda? Have fun!!

    3. Mokeira

      January 24, 2018

      'ngojea uzae tuone kama utazurura!!'?but whyyy? seriously though, if people knew how cheap it can be to travel!!!
      Go girl!! Give us more travel goals?

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        haha..humans! Thanks love

    4. Sheila ndiwa

      January 24, 2018

      Go girl!! cheering from the sidewalks coz as much as I know you are living my life lol..soon getting over my fear though.

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        you will and you will see how intense it is. It is worth it though

    5. January 24, 2018

      This article has such relateable truths! I might do the questions I have received as well, some time.

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        I know right? I cannot wait to see your post. Do it!

    6. January 24, 2018

      My biggest impediment would be #7 if I'm being honest. Loving your journey, keep giving us those travel goals 🙂

      • Miss Rioba

        January 26, 2018

        it's not bad at all. you tend to meet people along the way and honestly it's fun interacting with the locals of the place you visit

    7. January 24, 2018

      Nice read. Some of those questions though!!!
      PS. Nominated you for BAKE awards. Hope you are shortlisted

      • Miss Rioba

        January 26, 2018

        oh wow!! Thanks Judith! I had not even thought of BAKE! Thank you so much for believing in me

    8. Susan

      January 24, 2018

      Nice read....Go girl

      • Miss Rioba

        January 26, 2018

        Thank you Susan!

    9. Helgah b

      January 24, 2018

      Wow, just what i needed to start travelling.

      • Miss Rioba

        January 26, 2018

        I'm glad to hear this. Happy travels!

    10. January 25, 2018

      This is amazing!
      Go girl!

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        fifi!! Thank you

    11. Supadude

      January 25, 2018

      I want to see the world too. Not sure how but you've made me see its possible

      • Miss Rioba

        January 25, 2018

        glad to hear that, all the best.

    12. elsie

      March 29, 2018

      wow rioba l have spent most of my morning reading your blog and am so impressed.

      i think we have alot of similarity and same perception about life.

      invite me along for your next adventure

    13. April 20, 2018

      […] when I thought I had heard it all on 9 hilarious questions you might get as an African woman traveling solo,  someone decided to hit me with that. I was not offended because nowadays I expect all sorts of […]

    14. Bhoke

      May 8, 2018

      I sooo relate to these questions/comments.

      • Miss Rioba

        May 9, 2018

        Right? Travel is life though

    15. August 23, 2018

      Totally enjoyed reading this post😊

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